Sunday, November 29, 2009

Questions to Ask on a First Date - Is This REALLY What You Want?

Imagine what it would be like if women were attracted to you without you ever doing anything except being yourself. In this world there are many men who do just that.

How do they do this?

Well its simple really, they are men. And women are attracted to men. The difference between those men and you is that they understand this and you do not. If you did you would not be reading this or looking up quick and easy lines that you can use as conversation starters for your next date.

Many men, and women for that matter, seem to get things a little confused when it comes to understanding what the opposite sex is looking for in a mate. This confusion usually stems from a lack of self confidence. The way this plays out is usually like this.

You see a girl that you think is great and you would like to get to know her. The first thing that you feel is FEAR. Fear that she will not see you as valuable.

Lets stop right there

Why would you care if that girl thinks YOU are valuable, unless there was something lacking in the value that you place on yourself?

Let me rephrase the question.

WHY DO YOU CARE? Why would you let, what one person, who DOESN'T even KNOW you, make you feel any less of a man, or self conscious, or make you fearful?


Every week I am going to write a new post. In these posts I am going to be covering what I think is some of the most useful and valuable information that you are EVER going to come across on the internet. The reason I say this is simple.

In order to attract women, you have to BE attractive. Learning to do this is going to have a positive affect on every aspect of your life.

I am not interested in giving you cutesy one liners like "Questions to Ask on a First Date" or "5 Great Locations for a First Date" or any of that crap because that is superficial BS. Those things are not and CAN NOT, lead you to having the GREAT, STRONG, REAL relationship with the woman of YOUR dreams.

In my up coming posts I will be covering:


#1: Men and Women are Different.

This is REALLY important to understand, and yet few men actually INTERNALIZE it and cross that boundary between 'knowing' and 'doing'.

Guys like these are the ones who never invest any effort or time into actually UNDERSTANDING feminine psychology or what 'works' with women ... and so they end up repeating the same old relationship-pattern again and again.

#2: Women are attracted to men because they are MEN.

Everywhere you look, guys are sensitizing, tenderizing, and demasculinizing themselves in the hopes that this will somehow attract more women.

Here's a new concept for you: women like men who are MEN.

Not a whimpering, supplicating creature that's deliberately scrubbed all residual masculinity, from its personality like unwanted barnacles and who attempts to attract women through its complete LACK of anything that might 'offend'.

... like being up-front about attraction
... like teasing her and making her laugh
... like daring to cross 'boundaries' in a playful, laid-back way
... like taking RISKS and being a MAN.

#3: Non-attachment is what works - but don't get carried away.

The moment you start getting too attached to the outcome of any situation - the moment you start to act like a guy WITHOUT OPTIONS - is the moment that the tables turn, you give up all your CONTROL and POWER, and put HER in the driver's seat of what happens next.

And that will KILL her attraction for you just as fast as you can GOOD-BYE.